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The pre-marriage bucket list

The pre-marriage bucket list

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A big reason I decided to make the leap and move to Nice was my newly single status. No one to feel guilty about leaving behind, no relationship to maintain while pursuing my own dreams. I was inspired to create a “pre-marriage bucket list” by this “pre-baby bucket list.” And since I’m only 21, I’ve got plenty of time to check off the 30 things to do before you’re 30.

My personal thoughts about marriage aside, I like having goals and deadlines. That being said, my “pre-marriage bucket list” is basically everything I want to accomplish before I have any excuses not to put myself and my dreams first. I’ve already checked canyoning and paragliding off the list, and I’m in the process of completing the first two–but there’s plenty more!

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The only problem with these sorts of things is it inspires me to start dreaming big. Real big. It’s hard to be realistic while also incorporating all that I hope to do.

What’s on your bucket list: pre-marriage, pre-baby or pre-dirt nap?

  • I love this idea! In my office right now I am literally the only person under 30 not engaged (I'm 25). It's kind of bizarre and tempting to beat myself up, but the truth is, in a lot of ways being single is an opportunity, not a deficiency. It's actually pretty sweet to do whatever I want, when I want, without consulting with anyone else.

    That said I don't really have a bucket list of any sort, not sure why. I guess my goal, regardless of any big life changes, is just to experience as much as possible. If I can find a partner who wants to tag along- Amazing. If not- can't wait around for anyone!

  • adventurouskate

    Hmm…the main thing on my bucket list is to travel the world! Pretty open-ended, but much of it will be coming true for Southeast Asia within the near future…I have a date, but I'm not revealing it yet! 😉

    Others:

    To live abroad. Lately, I'm thinking Sydney.

    To make a living as a writer, even part-time.

    To build a successful, popular, revenue-driving web site.

    To have a romance with a hot foreigner.

  • Well done my friend. The key is to make a list that is realistic, yet challenging. Yours is both. Keep me posted on rollerblading a marathon….I might try to join you! 😉

  • Interesting posting! I don't have a pre-marriage bucket list, always figured I would find a guy who would either come with me OR would be fine with me doing my own thing, no stopping me. Right now I am just try to live life to the fullest, no bucket list of any kind. If I were to have one, it would be pre-dog bucket list.

  • Oh man I didn't even think of a list and I'm the list master. I'm 32 so no longer qualify for the Before 30 list but definitely the pre-marriage or “on my trip” list.

  • Katie

    Christine,
    YOu are well underway on your bucket list. Do it now!!!
    Enjoy and have fun!!!!

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  • RexFlo

    The canyoning and paragliding pictures look good! When and where did you do that?
    Why do you want to learn how to shoot? I mean, you should take advantaged of your right to bear arms, but is it to ward off sexual predators or go big game hunting? Either puts startling images in my head.

    It seems like some of these could be the last thing you ever do. Skydiving? Why would you want to pay to fall down? Hella scary, dude. You should make a list of things to do before you go skydiving, just to be safe.

  • Erica

    Roomie… Whenever you wait to go to a shooting range or take a trip to Australia let me know! I will be more than willing to come with you! I love your bucket list… I should make one of my own!

  • camorose

    I'm a big list person–I like to cross things off! I figure I have the rest of my life to be married and deal with the complications and compromises that arise with that, so I'd rather focus on experiencing the most that I can now, while I'm young. I adore all my friends that are married now, but I'd rather be a bit selfish for a while and do everything I want to do without worrying about anyone else. Basically, we're very much on the same page 🙂

  • camorose

    I'm trying to do all four of those too! I'm thinking Australia might be my next destination to live and work for a while…and let's be serious, I'm definitely trying to find a hot Frenchman for a summer fling 🙂

  • camorose

    I'm going to do some serious research on rollerblading marathons, and I will keep you updated on anything I find! Thanks for being my inspiration with this!

  • camorose

    I think my pre-marriage bucket list is the same as my pre-dog bucket list! I want a dog so badly, but I know that I'm just not ready to settle down with a house and yard quite yet. I certainly hope to find a guy who is willing to come along or to let me do my own thing, but I want to be selfish for a bit while I'm young and totally do what I want!

  • camorose

    Haha, I was definitely inspired by the pre-baby bucket list! Now I have the pre-marriage bucket list, the life bucket list AND a list of all the countries I absolutely want to travel too. I'm a bit obsessed with Google docs 🙂

  • camorose

    I went canyoning in Interlaken, Switzerland and paragliding in Germany–both when I was in Europe last summer. As for my right to bear arms, I'm the daughter of a former FBI agent. It's in my blood. I don't want to actually kill anything, I just want to know how. I really just want to be able to shoot out the star thing at the State Fair.
    Obviously, sky diving is a bit scary–that's why it's at the end of the list!

  • Great list Christine! Dreams are never realistic but if you want them bad enough, they have an uncanny knack of coming true.

  • camorose

    Roomie! So glad you're reading 🙂 Let's absolutely go shooting/go to Australia when I'm back…are you in for skydiving or bungee jumping too?!

  • camorose

    Well said–you have to work to make your dreams a reality! Thanks for reading and for weighing in!

  • Kate B

    rollerblade a marathon- haha! excellent! I'm adding biking a marathon to my list… on a cruiser of course 🙂 miss you and LOVE you're blog!

  • camorose

    Thanks Kate! You can cruise next to me while I rollerblade–bike brigade at its finest!

  • This is a great list! I found you after commenting on my guest post at AlmostFearless about travel photos. I love your site – it is so cute! The colors, the fonts – I love them! The vintage photos on the side are perfect! It sounds like you are really living the dream in France and I think that's awesome!

  • camorose

    Awww thanks! Means a lot from a great eye like yourself! Your pictures were amazing–definitely inspiring me to go think out of the box next time I head out on a photo mission.

  • Great list — but you don't have to do these things pre-marriage! If you find the right partner, they will support your dreams and respect your need for travel and adventure, even after you tie the knot.

    I met my husband when he was my skydiving instructor. Five years and 350 jumps later (and 1,700 jumps for him), we got hitched. For our honeymoon this summer, we're hiking the Inca Trail and exploring Peru for a month. Then he's going to return home, and I'm going to spend a year going rtw with my friend. Even though I'll miss him terribly, we'll meet up again at Christmas and Skype often.

    Oh, and you should go to Vegas to learn to shoot. In Nevada, it's legal to rent automatic weapons, so that's what my husband and I did for Valentine's Day.

  • camorose

    While I'm definitely crossing my fingers I fall in love with someone who has the same interests as me, I realize that love sometimes trumps reason. That being said, my point with the list is making ME a priority while I'm single and trying to achieve these goals before love and compromise come into play. Who knows where life will take me though 🙂
    Shooting in Vegas sounds pretty epic, though–thanks for the tip!

  • Dennis

    Just remember that a parent may be reading this…….oh my!

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  • Love this! I almost wrote a bucket list blog a while back. you've inspired me to do so!
    one of mine is a hot-air balloon ride, or a helicopter ride (over Whistler)
    And another one is to celebrate my 30th birthday in Greece 🙂

  • camorose

    A hot-air balloon ride is totally on mine too! I need to add that to the list–thanks for reminding me 🙂

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  • Here is a great place to create, manage and share your bucket list. You can also get some interesting ideas to put on your bucket list from others.

    Check it out.

    http://www.sharebuckets.com

  • Here is a great place to create, manage and share your bucket list. You can also get some interesting ideas to put on your bucket list from others.

    Check it out.

    http://www.sharebuckets.com

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  • Clairemorris 27

    I have just come across your blog and I really like it. I love your things to do list, always a good thing to have to keep you motivated. xx

  • Anonymous

    Thanks! So glad you enjoy it–I definitely need to write things down or I’ll never get them done!

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  • Jrs112

    I didn’t have a bucket list per se when I was in my twenties, but I did dream big. I published in a magazine (a few) by the time I was thirty, I travelled the world, and I worked and lived in other cities (than the one I grew up in). I also got married. Let me tell you, once you get married, your life changes… big time. I was still travelling, but now it was on a very tight budget, and I had to forgo chances to go places because of my husband.

  • Anonymous

    I’m definitely trying to squeeze in all the stuff I absolutely MUST do before I get married (or even in a serious relationship). Compromise isn’t my favorite word 🙂

  • Having been married for 6 (awesome) years I think it would behoove my fellow wedded travelers to form a post marriage bucket list! Things to do to keep married life an adventure together…hmmm maybe my next blog?

  • Anonymous

    That’s a great idea! Look forward to seeing it!

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  • 8DaveWonder

    Lucky the man who falls in love with you.

  • Wifeyofaroadie

    Happened to find this post of yours. It’s nice to set some goals before marriage. Then, when you are married, set more goals and if for some reason you weren’t able to check off all your pre-marriage goals, don’t give up. My pre-marriage bucket list (that I wrote in sixth grade) included a trip to Mount Fuji. I just checked that off two years ago after having been married eight years!
    Wifey of a Roadie – Out!

  • Anonymous

    One of my friends has a pre-baby bucket list that she and her husband are crossing things off pretty religiously–such a fun idea for couples! They’re currently planning a trip to Greece.

  • I realize I am wayyyyyyyyy late to the party but have just spent the last hour or so reading about your travels while sitting bored out of my mind at my job.  I was first inspired to start reading because you had a lot on Australia.  I went to OZ for a few weeks in 09 and am dying to return.

    Then I looked at your archives out of curiosity to see how you became this amazing traveler.  I had never really had a 30 before 30 list (I just turned 30 at the end of December and it was the best birthday as of yet – so don’t be afraid when it comes creeping up on you) but always had a bucket list.  One of the things on it was the great barrier reef (which I did…snorkeled and wore one of those awesome blue suits too to keep the stingers away) and also – like you – bungee jumping in Australia.  I jumped in Cairns….after swimming in the Mossman Gorge all day (where we were apparently swimming right near a croc hatchery – AWESOME).

    Like you, I left to go travel because I was single and I could.  Even though you don’t know it at the time, that significant other can hold you back and it is so freeing to go do whatever YOU want to do…no matter how crazy your dreams may seem.

    Next up- Road Trip across the US… that’s always been on my list too 🙂

    Cheers!

  • Anonymous

    Ahhh glad you found the list! Slowly ticking things off…a road trip across the USA is definitely high on my list as well. Still have a few years before I hit 30, so hoping to cross off many more of these 🙂 Thanks for reading!

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  • cody

    you can cross off road trip