A lifelong love affair with France

April 12, 2010 in France,Life,Philosophy,Travel

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Contrary to popular belief, I’m not French. Not a splash of that cheese-loving, surrender-monkey French blood in my body, yet I’m as Francophile as they come.

In case you were wondering why this German-Italian-Irish-Polish melting pot shunned her own cultures and embraced France, here’s why.

My mother grew up in a small town in Pennsylvania. When she turned 16, she applied for a Rotary Club scholarship to study abroad. She didn’t narrow down her country choice; anywhere they wanted to send her, she would go. And so she was selected to go to South Africa. She embarked on sewing sundresses and learning about South African culture.

A few weeks before she was scheduled to leave for the sunny shores of Capetown, riots broke out and the country was deemed an unsafe destination for a young American woman. The Rotary Club changed her itinerary, and sent her to Normandy in Northern France. The headline on the story that ran in the local paper: “Miss Makes Like Columbus: Aims For South Africa, Ends Up In France.”

She switched gears, started sewing winter clothes and learning French. Although she had only studied German, she quickly became fluent in French–thanks to long study sessions and a natural talent for languages.

She then majored in French in college, spent a year studying in Montpelier and hitchhiking through the South of France, and became a high school French teacher. Although she no longer teaches French–the FBI snatched her up for her language skills after a few years of teaching–and she now runs her own business, her French is still impeccable. Literally. Whenever we travel to France, she’s able to commiserate with locals about “those loud American tourists” without them ever questioning her own nationality.

Unfortunately I chose friends over French and soccer over studying while I was younger, eliminating a bilingual childhood. Yet having a French tutor at home meant I jumped straight into French II in high school (after three years of German to please my grandmother), and never looked back. I’ve spent two summers in France, one in Provence and one in Paris. Taking advantage of my six-week college winter break and cheap off-season fares, my mom and I shopped to our hearts’ content at les soldes the past few years.

I love traveling somewhere where I can understand the language and yet it’s not my native tongue. And when you understand the French culture, you can fully appreciate its nuances. The diet of excellent wine, creamy cheese and a fresh baguette every day? Added perk.

Yet I know many people don’t enjoy Paris, or are frustrated by the French way of doing things. Not understanding French culture (also commonly perceived as rudeness) can definitely damper a visit to the City of Lights.

What are your feelings about France: the people, the culture, the food? Stereotypes? Actual experiences? I’d love to dig into some of these issues while I’m in Nice.

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  • http://twenty-somethingtravel.com/ Stephanie

    I've never been to France but I can understand your feelings. I think it's very similar to the way I feel about London. I have no english relatives or background but for some reason when I'm there it just feels right.

  • http://www.gobackpacking.com Dave

    Glad you shared the back story! My first experience with France was back in '98 as a bumbling college graduate, and I did have some encounters with rude French people (in Paris the day/night of the World Cup final) and in Nice with some young teenagers in a park who wanted to drink from my water bottle (eww).

    Thankfully, I wanted to give it another shot, after meeting lots of cool French travelers abroad. I stayed with a Parisian medical student for a few nights, and partied with her friends on NYE (think Grey's Anatomy, but in French), and then later got a wonderful tour of St Emilion, Bordeaux, and Arcachon Bay from a young French couple I'd met in South Africa.

    Those latter experiences made me appreciate French culture in a whole new way. I think my interest in cooking that developed in between also helped.

    As for me, I still daydream about the beautiful mountains surrounding Medellin, Colombia. :)

  • suzyguese

    Great post Christine! I can completely relate. Being of Irish and German descent, I fell in love with Italy, Italian and Italian culture. There really is no rhyme or reason to it but I can't get enough of the country and language. We are quite similar in that regard. It's a little scary.

    My first experience in France came when I was 8 years old. My uncle was marrying a French woman so we got to partake in a traditional French wedding. People were so nice to us. I gained a great insight into French culture at a such young age. Those that don't like France should try to partake in a festival or some sort of activity that is off of the tourist paths. I think that is what won me over, being able to be in a French wedding and practicing traditions I wouldn't have seen otherwise.

  • http://www.diwyy.com/ Kristina

    I had a long layover in Paris in January and, although it was freezing, I had a wonderful time! Delicious food, friendly people, and amazing sites.

    I know you are going to have an amazing time in Nice!!

  • Vanda

    I was not happy in Paris last year. Some very rude people in the streets, and in shops. But some more kind as well, especially youngsters (I am an old bag). I was happy to ses the big-sheet newspapers, and people reading them everywhere, and I loved french icecream though in May it was very cold in Paris. I loved a solitary walk along the Seine and crossing the bridges. I loved Louvre, and I cried in Notre Dame. Je t'aime, Paris.

  • camorose

    It sounds like you were able to have a good experience, despite some cultural differences. I've come to realize that Parisians are not just “rude” to tourists–that's just how they are to everyone! It can certainly take some getting used to, but it sounds like you were able to enjoy your trip nonetheless :)

  • camorose

    What a great experience and chance to see French culture first-hand! Festivals, weddings, traditional parties–they're all a great way to see France how a French person sees it and learn more about where they come from.
    I think it's more fun to love a culture that's not necessarily yours–it adds one more dimension to your cultural experience. In the future, however, I would love to explore the Irish, Italian, German and Polish cultures to find out more about where I come from. For right now, however, I'm concentrating on France!

  • camorose

    You are definitely making me want to check out Colombia!

    Thanks for sharing your experiences with France–I agree that a love of cooking can definitely change the way you see France and its culture. I'm also very jealous of the personal tours of St. Emilion and Bordeaux- what a great opportunity!

  • camorose

    That's all that matters! It's great that you were able to discover London at a young age so that you can enjoy it :)

  • http://www.gobackpacking.com Dave

    Did I mention the girl in Bordeaux worked at a pastry shop. Oh yea, I was in heaven when she brought home the leftovers my last night.

  • camorose

    So glad you enjoyed it! Now you just have to come visit Nice :)

  • camorose

    Lucky! One of my absolute favorite parts about France is that it is totally OK to have a pastry (or many pastries) every day. I always start my mornings with a pain au chocolat, and never feel guilty about it–it's the French way, after all.

  • http://www.gourmantic.com/ Gourmantic

    Hi Christine. I relate to the sentiment of feeling a strong connection with France without being French. As odd as it may sound, from the first time I visited, I felt right at home :)

  • camorose

    That's exactly how I felt! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one :)

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